You’ve enjoyed your engagement, you’re so excited to be a bride, and now it’s that time, time to start planning your wedding!… but where do you start??!
There are so many checklists out there, and more than one that has announced themselves to be the ‘best’ or ‘ultimate’, so how do you navigate and make sense of the 100’s of check boxes, and pages of lists?
Here are a handful of tips to get you on your way!
- Let me just get this one out of the way first up….
Ditch any checklist that tells you that you need to get in the gym, slim down, or lose weight for your wedding! – by all means, if you have a fitness or weight goal that is important to you then go for it, you want to feel amazing on your wedding day, but don’t feel at any point that this is a necessary step in the wedding planning process!
- Cross out those things that aren’t relevant – delete anything that is not relevant to you or your wedding. Remember, it’s your wedding, so have just those things most important to you. The list won’t look so overwhelming once it has been filtered through and edited!
- Use the timeline as a guide only – every wedding is different so timelines won’t all be appropriate! Most checklists will suggest booking your suppliers 12 months out and unfortunately, for those popular wedding months (March, April, October, November), 12 months is just not enough!! As soon as you set your date, start looking at making those big bookings; venue, photographer, videographer, celebrant, DJ, florist….
- Speak to your suppliers – ask questions, understand what is needed and when, understand what their roles and jobs are and what they will take care of for you. You are paying them for their work, knowledge and experience, so make the most of their expertise!
- Speak to other brides – speak to your friends or relatives who have recently been married or work in the industry, join Facebook support and chat groups, and ask them what worked for them. Ask for their resources and tap into their experience. Having been there and experienced it, they will be more than happy to help you navigate the checklist!
- Call in some favours and delegate! – don’t be afraid to hand off some tasks and items on the list! Yes, it is your wedding, but it doesn’t mean you have to do EVERYTHING. Your friends, family, bridesmaids and groomsmen will surely be happy to lend a hand, so if there is DIY, pickups or running around that needs to be tackled, hand it over, and tick it off!
- Go digital – check out your app store for digital checklists, wedding countdown timers, and planning tools. Going digital means you always have your checklist with you, you can set reminders and alerts, log emails, communications and notes, and keep everything backed up! Many apps will also provide you with tips and tricks for making the process easier!
- Enjoy the journey – it might be a cliché, but “enjoy the journey, not just the destination”. Don’t see your checklist as a list of chores, but think of the fun and exciting things you get to do along the way… spending time as a couple, spending time with family and friends, trying on gowns, tasting cake, meeting new people, seeing new venues, drinking champagne and being pampered. The wedding day at this end if very important, but a perfect wedding day will not make up for 2 years of stress caused by planning. This is something you will (hopefully) only do once, so make it fun and memorable!!!